When is not enough, not enough?
This is a heavy topic! Do marriages survive this? This is a situation that is more common than talked about.
A sexless marriage is typically defined as a relationship where a couple has sex fewer than 10 times a year, though for some, even less frequent intimacy than they’d like can feel just as painful. I can count on one hand how many times my husband and I had sex last year and I don’t need any hands to count this year. Approximately 15-20% of marriages are considered sexless. It can take up to 3 years before help is sought out. This is something that has been building in mine for about 5 years. We have discussed it but never got outside help. Studies show that about 37% of sexless marriages end in divorce. That is honestly where my head is at. There are so many causes to this. I feel like in my situation it is just a lack of effort. I also have a feeling my husband might be gay or bi-sexual.
We had a great sex life when we started dating. I know he was doing it for me. He is not as sexual as I am. I did make it clear that it was something that was important to me. Over time it became difficult for him to perform. So at some point you stop asking and start feeling like maybe I’m the problem. He has assured that is not the case, still not sure if I believe him.
I definitely feel like our marriage is very one sided in the emotional and physical area. He said he was going to get to the doctor. Hasn’t happened. He said that he would try harder and be more attentive, hasn’t happened. I’m very interested in other people’s thoughts or experience with this. What did you do?
Thank you so much for being here, until next time!